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How to Fight Back When Your Life Seems Falling Apart

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You’re buried under credit card and loan debts, your job is like a living hell with no real future in sight, you haven’t had enough sleep and you just had a breakup. All these predicaments and other sorts of issues seem to be all crashing down on you all at once and it’s as if your life is a wreck. How can you ever get up or even know where to start putting everything into order? Grown-up life is not easy.

Here are the simplest ways (yet effective when done consistently) that will get you through life’s battles:

Use your support system

You may have a set of reliable friends or one that knows you inside out. Shoot them a message or call if you need to when you need another set of eyes to get a better perspective of what you are going through. You need not to share in all the details, just air out what you can to lighten up your load. Many Psychologists believe that a problematic gets a relief and feeling that the battle is half won when shared with someone. Sometimes, we just need a pair of ears that will hear us out in this down time.

Go to bed and cry your eyes out

Sometimes, you need a private time to let it all out and acknowledge your hurt like an open wound. Give yourself a good cry and don’t suppress it—allow all the pain, anxiety and all other depressing emotions flow down like tears. Says author Jerry Bergman, trying to stop ourselves from crying increases our level of stress, and even contributes to illnesses related to stress, including high blood pressure and heart problems.

When we release emotional stress through crying, you will find it easier to sleep because scientifically, shedding tears reduce an amount of hormones for psychological wellness and in order to recover, the brain send chemical signal to neurons to induce sleep and help the body rest fully.

Consider all possible answers

If looking into the solution means you seek help from Google then by all means, do so. Look up ideas that can help you minimize or solve your most pressing problem. You may find loads of information out there but that is alright, the important thing to take note is the fact that there are answers. If it requires more effort and time than what you can pour in, then go find another; there is no problem that has only one solution left.

Find something that can distract you

A contributor from said that time cannot heal all wounds but it can make you forget about it. While you are giving time the time, make sure you’re not stuck in the ordeal you’re in. Clean your house, cook your favorite meal, wash the dishes or shop for groceries it doesn’t matter—find and do something that takes off the weight of things on your mind. Being in a difficult situation should not to get in the way for you to re-establish a balance of your personal issues and obligations.

5 Ways to Be More Persuasive

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Some people are naturally charismatic and persuasive. Although persuasion is not something actually taught to us as we grow up, it’s definitely an important skill to have. Sometimes it can even dictate how successful you can be in life. So, without further ado, here are some ways for you to become more persuasive.

1. Know the difference between persuasion and manipulation

To put it simply, manipulation is to pressure someone to do what you want through guilt or force. Persuasion, on the other hand, is to get someone to do something that can benefit you and them. Knowing the difference is very important if you want to persuade someone and keep a healthy relationship with them.

2. Show the other person how it can benefit them

Again, persuasion is all about showing someone how an action can benefit both parties. For example, you’re trying to convince your girlfriend to go hike with you at the MacRitchie trail. You can show her the benefits of doing this to her health. It will be difficult to persuade someone to do something if they don’t gain anything from it or if they will have to suffer losses. So always point out the benefits.

3. Don’t complicate the conversation

You’ll have a difficult time communicating what you want if you’re already confusing the other person right from the start. It’s good to have a bit of an ice breaker but don’t drag it too long. If you take too long, the other person might just be confused or he/she will know that you’re trying to persuade them with something. So, just remember to keep things simple!

4. Consider the context

When we talk to certain groups of people, our language usually changes. For example, the terms and expressions we use with our friends can be different from the ones we use at the office when talking to our boss. You can basically think of this as context. You’ll have to consider context because you want the other person to understand you as much as possible. Why would you use teenage slang when talking to aunties who would never understand you?

5. Yield if you really can’t do it

If you think you really can’t persuade the person, just give it up. You won’t want to push a person too hard as it will only affect your relationship. If you fail to persuade someone with one thing, don’t worry too much. Sometimes these things don’t really turn out to be much of a deal. Plus, there might be a chance that you failed for a reason. You might get more benefits than if you actually convinced the person otherwise.

Simple Techniques to Memorize Better and Faster

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Whether it’s for a business speech, a presentation for school, or even some math formulas for a test, you have to use different techniques so that you can memorize your material properly. The thing is though, there are methods that can be much more efficient than others. So, let’s cut to the chase and check out some simple techniques that can help you memorize better and faster.


There are numerous advantages to recording yourself when memorizing. One is that you’ll rely on your own ears instead of looking at your copy. Let’s say you start memorizing a short paragraph in the speech. If you keep looking at the copy to read out what you just forgot, you might get used to that. So when you take the stage, you’ll just mess up because you don’t have a visual cue anymore. Another advantage is that you can force it in your subconscious. Some believe that when you listen to the recording while you sleep, you’ll remember the material better because it’s replayed again and again in your subconscious.

Write the material repeatedly

This tip can be more helpful if you actually memorized some lines of your material already. Instead of just speaking those memorized lines, it might help to write them down as well. And not just that, write them down again and again! This way, you’ll get to pay extra attention to what you’re saying as you can check if the words are correct as you write them down. If you think about it too, you’ll notice that you will have an easier time memorizing something while writing it down compared to just speaking it. You get to train your eyes, mouth, and ears by doing this as well.

Do a simulation using your surroundings

While practicing or even when you’re still trying to memorize some lines take advantage of your surroundings. If you’re making a presentation in a classroom, for example, try to memorize inside the classroom itself or somewhere close to it. By doing this you’re already readying yourself for the actual presentation as early as possible. Plus, you allow yourself to get comfortable with the venue by doing this. You’ll definitely have an easier time during the actual presentation. 

Teach or present it to someone

Let’s say you’re trying to memorize some important mathematical formulas for a test. One great way to test yourself on how much you’ve memorized is to teach the material to a companion. You can also try to make a test out of it for the other person to answer. By doing this, you’ll gain a better understanding of the material you have to memorize. Simply put, when you have a thorough understanding of something, you’ll be able to memorize it better and a lot quicker.

4 Tips to be More Sociable

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There are just those kind of people who seem to find it a breeze when they interact with other people. There are also those who break a sweat even if all they have to do is smile and wave to someone they see in the corridor.
Simply put, there are just those who are more sociable than others.

But humans are highly sociable beings so it is a must for us to oblige and give in to this impulse. However we do it, is up to us.

Here are some tips to help you become more sociable:

1. Slowly but surely
The first step to becoming more sociable is the willingness to do so. Once you’re past that, you have to keep in mind that this is no magic trick and it won’t happen overnight. It’s a process that can sometimes be painstakingly progressive as the days creep by. But the good news is, it can happen. It’s just a matter of when. A generous amount of patience also plays a key for this crucial step. Make sure you give yourself breathing room to grow, and not imposing rigid rules as to how your progress should be.

2. Learn the ropes
Ask around if you encounter social butterflies in different events or contexts. Make them spill how they achieve that comfortable banter with people around them with as little effort as possible. Learn the basic etiquette when it comes to dealing and interacting with other people. There’s a variety of social cues that could do you wonders once you get hold of them. However, make sure you don’t overdo this step. It’s an ugly scene when people notice you’re too by the book when interacting with them.

3. Get outside of your head
The most common mistake people make when interacting with other people is that they’re too stuck inside their heads to actually be in the conversation. They get too self-conscious and get too caught up with forming what to reply instead of actually listening. They think of the impression that the other person has of them, instead of just being in the moment. Once you learn to get out of your head and be in the here and now, you’ll find that you’re less nervous and could actually react appropriately to the person you’re talking to.

4. Accept and love yourself
There’s a reason all these pep talk lines are in most of our songs. They actually do you a whole lot of good when you accept yourself as you are and actually like who you see in the mirror no matter how imperfect you think you are. People are just people and if you make mistakes, so do they. Humans are universally the same so just go ahead and talk to them regardless of their background and prestige. At the end of the day, you’re both just humans having an exchange of ideas.

How to Keep Going On Despite Difficulties

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There are times when we find ourselves in rather sticky situations whether we like them or not. Sadly the only thing that pops into our head is, “Is it over yet?” How are we supposed to deal with this type of distaste? Now, life is meant to be enjoyed but then again, we can’t really be expected to enjoy every single step of the way. Life has ups and downs. Everyone looks up to the ups, but not a lot of people actually talk about dealing with the downs.

What do you do when you are at a distaste with your current situation? Hopefully these following tips would help you cope:

1. Look at Problems from a “Bird’s Eye View”
Sometimes the cause of our anxiety isn’t the actual problem itself. Sometimes the cause of our anxiety is how close we are towards the problem. The smaller our vision, the more cluttered things seem. Learn to zoom out and look at things from a more objective point of view. It’s normal to feel a certain emotion with every type of situation but do not let that emotion cloud your actual view of the situation.

2. When Tired, Take a Rest, But Don’t Give Up
Instead of learning how to quit, learn how to rest. Rest is vital in development and recuperation of strength. If you are drained, learn how to rest instead of just giving up. Let’s face it, everyone gets tired. This is a trait most CEOs know how to carry out really well. Most successful CEOs know when to rest. Instead of letting worry and doubt cloud your head, learn how to rest. Besides, worry and doubt are very counter-productive.

3. Always Keep Yourself Motivated
The root of motivation actually comes from a simple line, “I can do this”. And sometimes that’s all it takes. All those motivational speeches are helpful but at the end of the day, your biggest motivation should be yourself. Allow yourself to be motivated by others but do not rely on them as a source of motivation. Instead, rely on yourself to keep yourself motivated no matter what happens.

4. Every Day You Give Your Best is a Win
Winning by default is still winning. Imagine this, you’re in a competition with some of the best contestants around, the competition gets tiring and one by one your competition starts to quit, isn’t that a sign to keep going? A recent study has shown that intelligence is not always the measure of success, it’s grit. Grit is the trait of champions. Being able to get up after every fall knowing how small that bump would be in the whole picture, now that’s a trait of a true champion.

5 Factors to Consider Before Moving Out


As you start your journey to adulthood, you might already be considering the idea of moving out. Perhaps you’re also considering it because of your desire to be independent or things like heavy traffic. But before spending your savings to rent your own place, ensure that you first consider all the adjustments and changes you need to deal with independent. Here are five things you should consider before you get your own space.

1. Expenditures

Paying your rent isn’t the only thing you need to consider when you decide to move out of your home. There are bills, groceries, association dues and other expenses that you might not have thought about. For that reason, ensure that you list down everything you need to start spending on before deciding to leave your family home. Doing this will certainly give you an idea about what your expenses will be and prepare you financially for when you move out.

2. Location of Your Space

Other than the extra expenses, the location of your potential condo is another important factor to consider before deciding to move out. Are there any convenience stores or supermarkets that are close to the place? Is your office close enough? Do you see some sketchy people hanging out across the street? Answer these questions by exploring the area and deciding whether or not you’ll feel comfortable living in it.

3. Furniture or Appliances

Perhaps you think that you can get away by bringing furniture from your family home and moving them to your new place – but do understand that you can’t take everything with you. Your best option is to browse through buy-and-sell websites to purchase new or pre-loved furniture at a fraction of the cost. You can work on your interior over time, since the first thing you need to ensure when you’re moving out is that you feel comfortable and at-home in your new nook.

4. Things You’ll Give Up

If you’re planning to live away from your family, then there’s a good chance that you won’t be eating home-cooked meals on a regular basis. You might end up missing your mom’s cooking after bingeing on fast food meals for a week. This means you’ll need to invest in some good cooking tools if you want to copy your favourite homemade dishes.

5. Things You Need to Start Doing

Other than letting go of some things or activities you used to do in your family, getting your own space also allows you to start doing the things you’ve always wanted to do. Having your own place means you have every right do whatever hobby you like, so better start shopping all the things you need to pursue your passion.

Gaining independence may seem intimidating, but it does have its own perks. You might need to give up some of your comfort you used to enjoy, but your efforts will certainly be worth it later on.

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