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How to Keep Going On Despite Difficulties

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There are times when we find ourselves in rather sticky situations whether we like them or not. Sadly the only thing that pops into our head is, “Is it over yet?” How are we supposed to deal with this type of distaste? Now, life is meant to be enjoyed but then again, we can’t really be expected to enjoy every single step of the way. Life has ups and downs. Everyone looks up to the ups, but not a lot of people actually talk about dealing with the downs.

What do you do when you are at a distaste with your current situation? Hopefully these following tips would help you cope:

1. Look at Problems from a “Bird’s Eye View”
Sometimes the cause of our anxiety isn’t the actual problem itself. Sometimes the cause of our anxiety is how close we are towards the problem. The smaller our vision, the more cluttered things seem. Learn to zoom out and look at things from a more objective point of view. It’s normal to feel a certain emotion with every type of situation but do not let that emotion cloud your actual view of the situation.

2. When Tired, Take a Rest, But Don’t Give Up
Instead of learning how to quit, learn how to rest. Rest is vital in development and recuperation of strength. If you are drained, learn how to rest instead of just giving up. Let’s face it, everyone gets tired. This is a trait most CEOs know how to carry out really well. Most successful CEOs know when to rest. Instead of letting worry and doubt cloud your head, learn how to rest. Besides, worry and doubt are very counter-productive.

3. Always Keep Yourself Motivated
The root of motivation actually comes from a simple line, “I can do this”. And sometimes that’s all it takes. All those motivational speeches are helpful but at the end of the day, your biggest motivation should be yourself. Allow yourself to be motivated by others but do not rely on them as a source of motivation. Instead, rely on yourself to keep yourself motivated no matter what happens.

4. Every Day You Give Your Best is a Win
Winning by default is still winning. Imagine this, you’re in a competition with some of the best contestants around, the competition gets tiring and one by one your competition starts to quit, isn’t that a sign to keep going? A recent study has shown that intelligence is not always the measure of success, it’s grit. Grit is the trait of champions. Being able to get up after every fall knowing how small that bump would be in the whole picture, now that’s a trait of a true champion.

5 Factors to Consider Before Moving Out


As you start your journey to adulthood, you might already be considering the idea of moving out. Perhaps you’re also considering it because of your desire to be independent or things like heavy traffic. But before spending your savings to rent your own place, ensure that you first consider all the adjustments and changes you need to deal with independent. Here are five things you should consider before you get your own space.

1. Expenditures

Paying your rent isn’t the only thing you need to consider when you decide to move out of your home. There are bills, groceries, association dues and other expenses that you might not have thought about. For that reason, ensure that you list down everything you need to start spending on before deciding to leave your family home. Doing this will certainly give you an idea about what your expenses will be and prepare you financially for when you move out.

2. Location of Your Space

Other than the extra expenses, the location of your potential condo is another important factor to consider before deciding to move out. Are there any convenience stores or supermarkets that are close to the place? Is your office close enough? Do you see some sketchy people hanging out across the street? Answer these questions by exploring the area and deciding whether or not you’ll feel comfortable living in it.

3. Furniture or Appliances

Perhaps you think that you can get away by bringing furniture from your family home and moving them to your new place – but do understand that you can’t take everything with you. Your best option is to browse through buy-and-sell websites to purchase new or pre-loved furniture at a fraction of the cost. You can work on your interior over time, since the first thing you need to ensure when you’re moving out is that you feel comfortable and at-home in your new nook.

4. Things You’ll Give Up

If you’re planning to live away from your family, then there’s a good chance that you won’t be eating home-cooked meals on a regular basis. You might end up missing your mom’s cooking after bingeing on fast food meals for a week. This means you’ll need to invest in some good cooking tools if you want to copy your favourite homemade dishes.

5. Things You Need to Start Doing

Other than letting go of some things or activities you used to do in your family, getting your own space also allows you to start doing the things you’ve always wanted to do. Having your own place means you have every right do whatever hobby you like, so better start shopping all the things you need to pursue your passion.

Gaining independence may seem intimidating, but it does have its own perks. You might need to give up some of your comfort you used to enjoy, but your efforts will certainly be worth it later on.

5 Ways to Revamp Your Life


Getting a makeover doesn’t always involve your looks. Sometimes, it’s about leaving all your bad habits behind and starting anew. So if you feel the need to overhaul your life right now, here are some simple tricks on how you’ll be able to give yourself the kind of makeover that you need.


  1. Work Earlier. It may seem like a little thing, but setting your alarm clock an hour earlier can make a rather huge difference. Not only will you be able to avoid the heavy traffic, you’ll also feel motivated to work at an empty and peaceful office early in the morning.
  1. Make Peace With a Friend You Fought With. You were good friends in college, but before graduation, you had an argument and decided to not stay in touch. Don’t you think it’s time to start your friendship anew and just forget everything that happened? Well, don’t be scared and be the first one to reach out and rekindle your friendship.
  1. Get a New Haircut. There’s just no better way to feel like you’re a new and different person than getting a new haircut. Cut your Rapunzel-inspired locks into a long bob, or your medium-length hair to a chic pixie. Sometimes, getting a new haircut is already enough to inspire you to freshen up your life.


  1. Learn Different Languages. When you decide to learn Italian, Spanish or French, you’re not just embracing the language, but a part of another country’s culture as well. Other than that, you’ll also get to see things from an entirely different perspective. Learning the language is a bonus.
  1. Try a New Restaurant. Food isn’t simply a sustenance, it’s also an experience. If you’ve been eating in the same places, or ordering the same meals, then it might be time to add some excitement both into your palate and your life. Grab your girlfriends into some of the best steakhouses or dessert bars in your area, and see how each bite can revamp your life.

Giving your life a makeover isn’t as difficult as you imagine it to be. Just follow the aforementioned tips, and you’ll be able to revamp your life and start anew like nothing ever happened.


Pulling Ourselves From Quarter Life Crisis  



We are celebrating the International Happiness Day this March 20, 2015. This is United Nation’s way of encouraging people here in Singapore and around the world that happiness is a way of life. We should not let happiness dwindle because of our circumstances. What makes us happy? There are a lot of things here in Singapore that can make us happy if we only look closely.


However, not all people are happy now. Some are enduring quarter life crisis. Quarter life crisis is a feeling of discontentment, negativity and unhappiness – it is not pleasant. Things may look great on the surface but deep down inside, we are lost and unfulfilled. This will pull us to anxiety or worse, depression.

It is critical that we identify quarter life crisis and we learn how to pull ourselves from it. We have to realize that the only person that could pull us from quarter life crisis is ourselves. Getting our lives back on track is not easy but we should do it anyway. Here are some things that we can do to pull ourselves from quarter life crisis:

  • Share your feelings: Not all people are open about what and how they feel but sometimes, this is the easiest and the most cathartic way to get rid of unpleasant feelings. There are many people that we can talk to – our parents, friends and loved ones. Expressing our feelings makes things more manageable. People around us will know what we are going through and they’ll understand.
  • Spiritual healing: Spiritual healing is for everyone not just for the religious. When we are going through tough times, we pray. Praying or meditating will allow us to stay quiet and surrender everything to the higher power, the universe or whatever we believe in. Some think that this doesn’t make sense but sometimes we have to accept that there are things that we cannot control.


  • Make a lot of plans: Plans are important because it can give you reason to look forward. When we are in quarter life crisis, we are thinking of our purpose or is there something in the future worth pursuing. Making lots of plans can help us set our perspective. Even if it sounds counterintuitive, we have to make plans anyway.
  • See a therapist: It will be helpful if someone professional helps us get through everything. We need to figure out what we really want with our lives and the therapist might conclude everything. The therapist will ask the right questions leading to the right answers. There are many therapists here in Singapore that we can consider.


How to Improve Your Work?


One of the most important things in life is work. You will have a miserable life if you don’t have any work because work is one of the many sources of money. You need to work so that you can eat, you can buy clothes and many things that you need. Sometimes, your work too boring and too challenging and it is a normal situation that can happen in a company.



Challenging work is chosen by most employees because this is where the skills and capacity will be tested. However, for some they choose boring work because they are still paid even if they do nothing. Build a strong relationship with your co-workers. We see these people almost every day. They are the individuals that we should talk to achieve a good environment and lessen the stress all of you feel.


Many workers complain about differences and one of the reasons why workers quit is quarrel between employees. It is not really a good choice if you stay in a company that is full of maybe uneducated individuals and backstabbers. It will only stress you.

If you are employed in a specific company for so many years and there’s this individual who do everything just to be on top, do not let him do it especially when he is your worst enemy at work. Now, if you are a worker who is starting to build a career and you are not given the chance to do so, it will be a good choice if you go to another company that can help you build your career.



How to Break the Cycle of Enabling


We have an innate desire to fix things especially if it involves our loved ones. We do our best to help the people we love when they have difficulties but sometimes, helping them is harmful because it only robs them of the chance to become independent. This is called enabling. There is nothing wrong with helping but if it encourages other people to be dependent, that will stunt personal growth.


You have break the cycle of enabling. It is difficult to break it but it should be done. Here are some tips that you can consider when you are thinking of breaking the cycle of enabling:

Think about it

When someone asks you to help him/her, you have to think about it. You have to assess the situation and make sure that it is the best action. If possible, you can draw up a plan and share it to your family or friends. If you think that your love one or friend can handle it, that is great.

Encourage long term goal

Short term goal is helping your family or friend with his/her problem without further ado. Long term goal is letting your family or your friends handle their issues. It is better to let them be than help them all the time. You are just encouraging self-reliance.

Explain your point

If you cannot help your family or friend, you have to explain your point. You need to explain so they can understand your point. If you will help, you should at least define the limit.

Hold your ground

There will come a time that your heart becomes very soft that you want to help even more. That is not recommended because you are only making them more dependent.

Stop executing their responsibilities

No matter how badly they need help, you have to stop cleaning their mess. They should learn how to take care of their mess. You have to stop executing their responsibilities and let them handle it.

If you are not convinced of the things mentioned above, you can look for other tips. No matter what you think is right, it is important that you know how to deal with enabling so you will succeed at the end of the day. The ultimate goal of breaking enabling is to be independent.

Singapore is a complicated place. You will surely encounter many problems here but if you know what to do, you will surely survive. If you are the “enabler”, you need to inculcate that problems should be faced not passed around.

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