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5 Struggles Every Extrovert Secretly Deals With

When people talk about extroverts, usually we hear something like “they’re outgoing persons, their life must always be fun and easy.” False. Extroverts may not seem as complex or delicate, but they have a whole different category of struggles that they have to constantly deal with, too. These five are all too real for most (if not all) extroverts out there.

1. Using the terms “extrovert” and “outgoing” interchangeably.
Although there are outgoing extroverts, having an extroverted personality doesn’t always mean that you’re a super outgoing person. While introverts find it recharging to be alone, extroverts find energy around people. However, once an extrovert has found friends to be around, they do not feel the need to go out and make new friends, since they already found a group to get their energy from.

2. People instantly assume you love to be in huge crowds.
Yes, they’re comfortable with having people around, but extroverts don’t always want to be thrown in a rave-like environment. Most of the time, they get their dose of people-time from their group of close friends, not in a rave party or in a concert.

3. Extroverts always perceived as confident individuals.
Having an extroverted personality doesn’t mean you have an abundance of confidence. Sure, it isn’t a big deal to be around people for extroverts, but that doesn’t imply that they are 100 percent confident in their actions and in themselves. I, myself, am an introvert, but there have been several times when I felt small, shy and unsure of myself.

4. The friendliness often gets mistaken for flirting.
Just because an extrovert smiles, engages conversation and talks playfully doesn’t mean they are romantically interested to the person they’re conversing with. Being an extrovert simply means that the person enjoys the company of others—they can appear confident and are comfortable striking up a conversation with anyone regardless of how little or how much they know them.

5. People assume you are always happy.
Generally, extroverts are cheerful human beings, but that doesn’t mean their emotions only range from slightly happy to very happy. They are still human beings—they have emotions. Just like anyone, they also experience the full range of emotions.

So, if you know (or encounter) someone with an extroverted personality, remember these before saying (or thinking) any stereotypical things about them. Being an introvert has its own struggles as well, so embrace your uniqueness and just follow what your heart desires.