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4 Tips to be More Sociable

There are just those kind of people who seem to find it a breeze when they interact with other people. There are also those who break a sweat even if all they have to do is smile and wave to someone they see in the corridor.
Simply put, there are just those who are more sociable than others.

But humans are highly sociable beings so it is a must for us to oblige and give in to this impulse. However we do it, is up to us.

Here are some tips to help you become more sociable:

1. Slowly but surely
The first step to becoming more sociable is the willingness to do so. Once you’re past that, you have to keep in mind that this is no magic trick and it won’t happen overnight. It’s a process that can sometimes be painstakingly progressive as the days creep by. But the good news is, it can happen. It’s just a matter of when. A generous amount of patience also plays a key for this crucial step. Make sure you give yourself breathing room to grow, and not imposing rigid rules as to how your progress should be.

2. Learn the ropes
Ask around if you encounter social butterflies in different events or contexts. Make them spill how they achieve that comfortable banter with people around them with as little effort as possible. Learn the basic etiquette when it comes to dealing and interacting with other people. There’s a variety of social cues that could do you wonders once you get hold of them. However, make sure you don’t overdo this step. It’s an ugly scene when people notice you’re too by the book when interacting with them.

3. Get outside of your head
The most common mistake people make when interacting with other people is that they’re too stuck inside their heads to actually be in the conversation. They get too self-conscious and get too caught up with forming what to reply instead of actually listening. They think of the impression that the other person has of them, instead of just being in the moment. Once you learn to get out of your head and be in the here and now, you’ll find that you’re less nervous and could actually react appropriately to the person you’re talking to.

4. Accept and love yourself
There’s a reason all these pep talk lines are in most of our songs. They actually do you a whole lot of good when you accept yourself as you are and actually like who you see in the mirror no matter how imperfect you think you are. People are just people and if you make mistakes, so do they. Humans are universally the same so just go ahead and talk to them regardless of their background and prestige. At the end of the day, you’re both just humans having an exchange of ideas.